You have heard many times that when it comes to anal sex, and multiple stuffing there is no such thing as too much lube, and it’s completely true. But it is a bit trickier then popping into your local adult toy store or pharmacy to pick out a tube…jar…bottle? This is what you will often face…
Flavour, silicone, waterbased, latex safe, extra slippery, warming, cooling and then there those with a topical anesthetic as well. Wow! Where to start? Good old KY jelly vs the newest and brightest technologically advanced slick.
Lets start with the basics...
Lube is short form for lubrication. It’s also called slick or jelly. You apply it to specific parts of your body that you want to reduce friction when rubbed together. Lube works for the obvious anal and vaginal needs but it is a lot of fun to play with. Try pouring it between your breasts for your breast obsessed partner to slide in. ;)
There are two distinct types of lube. Silicone and Water-based.
Silicone works great if you are playing in a body of water. It's very slippery and lasts a long time without additional applications.
A drawback is it can easily stain fabric and has to be washed away with soap and water. You will need to wash out your tub or shower to assure you don’t slip on any residue. In addition, it doesn’t always work well with a woman’s inner body. Remember your vagina has a delicate ph balance. Adding a foreign substance that does not wash away easily can disrupt that balance and cause lingering after effects the next day and possibly lead to an infection.
Water based is much gentler to your inner workings. As you can tell by the name is dissolves in water so it’s easier to clean up. It too can stain but washes out much easier. You may need to reapply it after extended play because it tends to get a tad gummy sometimes. Water based lubricants work best with sex toys because they won't damage the latex or silicone coverings like a silicone product can.
That leads us to even more choices…
Flavour is as easy as picking yours or your partner’s favourite and experimenting from there. Try dotting the flavoured kind over your body for a tasty surprise when your partner explores your skin with his tongue.
Warming is a type that causes the skin to heat up when it’s applied and then breathed on. Like the back of your neck, base of your spine, inner thigh…..You get the idea.
The anesthetic type I mentioned earlier is very handy for those starting out in their experiments in the anal world. The numbing qualities can help to ease some of the initial discomfort. (apply generously LOL)
Please practice safe lubing, test out new products on your inner arm and your partner before using them on areas that are more delicate. The last thing you want to experience is an allergic reaction on your more sensitive parts.
Remember if you think you might need to add more lube then got for it. There is no thing as too much in certain situations. Have safe, consensual fun and see what other uses you can come up with for this versatile product.
If anyone has any suggestions of Brands or products for those just starting out then please don’t hesitate to suggest them in the comments. Myself, I like the ‘Wet’ products. They’re reasonably priced and available at most pharmacies and adult toy stores. Of course, I’m always willing to try out new suggestions too. J