Wednesday, August 17, 2011

The rules of a threesome

The rules of a threesome



So as I was researching a topic for this blog post, I came across some interesting information on rules regarding a threesome. Now, of course there are certain rules an author as to follow in terms of a threesome, BUT I didn’t actually realize, until now, that there were actual rules, or rules that one would be with it enough to follow if they were actually involved in a threesome. 

I found these very interesting and thought others would get a kick out of them too.

Rule no. 1
Establish the rules
You're going to have sex with two men/women and all three of you have your own rules and limits, so understanding and respecting one another's comfort levels should be a top priority when you're establishing your threesome rules.

Because your relationship with your partner will likely be affected by this new experience, you need to be absolutely clear on which acts she/he is comfortable with -- and what to avoid doing -- in advance. They may tell you that they aren’t uncomfortable with the idea of you penetrating another woman/man or even pleasing another woman/man orally.

You must respect their limits. Remember that each partner may suddenly feel jealous, so try your best not to shut either partner out and always give more attention to the person with whom you have a relationship -- this is an extremely important threesome rule.

As well, you may end up feeling jealous if you're not the center of attention. Just keep in mind that the object of the game is to share sex between three people.

Also, remember that although some people try to drink their way to bravery for a threesome, drunken sex usually ends up being bad sex. If you want to have a cocktail or two to loosen up, that's fine, but no more. You want to be at peak performance.

Rule no. 2
Be as giving as you can

Although you may be hoping that the two women/men will give you 100% of their attention, the truth is that they're there to please each other just as much as they're there to please you. You may end up feeling ignored and should do your best to get over it.

The best way to approach this situation, and an important threesome rule to follow, is to forget your feelings for a moment and try to be as generous with your hands and mouth as you can. Pleasure in one-on-one sex goes back and forth, but in a threesome it's more of a cycle that moves from person to person.

Keeping your hands moving and knowing when to penetrate are important threesome rules.

Rule no. 3
Keep yourself busy

When you find that both your partners are busy pleasuring each other and you have nothing to do, keep yourself busy. Take matters into your own hands and find something to do.

Caress your partner’s body parts as they engage in their own sexual experience. If you decide instead just to pleasure yourself for a little while, don't feel bad; the action will come back to you soon enough.

Rule no. 4
Be careful with penetration

Penetration is what novelist Tom Robbins calls "that old show-stopper." It automatically forms a serious bond between you and one woman/man, leaving the other out. For this reason, penetrate only when you're sure both women/men are comfortable with it.

Be aware that you may feel overwhelmed with pleasure if you're thrusting into one person and kissing and caressing another, meaning that you might climax more quickly than expected. Take it slowly and pace yourself.

And don't get so excited that you lose track of your partner: All three of you should be sexually satisfied and, even if you achieve climax first, you must do everything you can to bring your two partners to orgasm.

Rule no. 5
Be safe
Condoms are a necessity, obviously. Semen, vaginal fluid and menstrual blood transmit STDs, so use one specific hand to pleasure one specific partner and use the other hand on the other partner -- and keep it that way. You must never alternate.

Likewise, if you're having intercourse with both partners, you must also use a separate condom with each partner. As well, dental dams are a good precaution for oral sex. Lubricate the side that you place against a woman's skin for better sensation.


So, what did you think about these five rules concerning a threesome? I know they may be commonsense, but I found them interesting and thought you might as well!

5 comments:

heather said...

Yes, pretty much commonsense when you have done it a couple of times but still very interesting.

Harlie Reader said...

Good tips and one other thing...communication before, during and after.

I love this blog.

Mindy said...

First my husband would NEVER go for a threesome (well, maybe two women but never another man LOL) Second I dont know if I would ever have the nerve.

BUT I LOVE your blog and all the interesting posts to it. I like that it is an option LOL Who knows, maybe if something ever happens with my husband, I MIGHT get up the nerve...at least I can read about it hehehe

Thanks for the great info and I love your books :-)

Jenika Snow said...

Thanks for the comments everyone. Sorry I am a few days behind :-)

Savanna Kougar said...

I say to heck with the rules...