Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Male Confidence & Giveaway



There's nothing more attractive than a man who's self confident. A sexy swagger, flirty bedroom eyes, and naughty smirk. Not cocky or conceited, but plain old confident. He doesn't need constant reassuring, rarely gets jealous, and exudes a dominant aura. Nobody walks over him because he stands firm to his principles. He defends what he believes in, including the honor of his woman. He's experienced in life and sex and knows exactly what he likes in the bedroom, and how to please his woman.

When participating in a ménage relationship, it's important for the men to be self confident or they'd always doubt themselves, thinking the woman loved one of the others more than him. While it's necessary to add realism to a ménage romance, the men need to come to accept the relationship and know they're a valuable member of the ménage. They may start with doubts, reservations, and worry about societal expectations, but once the romance is in full swing, those doubts should diminish rapidly.

The heroine can get away with having low self-esteem in the beginning of a book because the heros are there to build her up, help her get over her past hang-ups or heartbreak. But I just don't like a whinny, clingy hero in my ménage romances. One male can be more dominant than another, but they should all know where they stand and what they want. Sometimes they may clash heads, but when the foundation of love is set, they can survive anything.


BOOK THREE COMING September 23rd



In my September 23rd release of THE LAST PRINCESS (Pack Seduction, 3) I wrote my first beta male. He's unlike the other two confident, dominant alphas in the ménage, but I feel he pulls it off.  Although Caleb isn't larger than life, he's sensible, sexy, and not afraid to claim what he wants.


GIVEAWAY

To win a copy of The Last Princess (or your choice from my backlist):

1.) Follow our "When One Is Not Enough" Blog
2) Just tell me if you prefer an alpha or beta male and why.

Winner chosen Friday, Sept. 16th.

Stacey xo


BOOK ONE



BOOK TWO

19 comments:

SusieJ said...

Already a follower :)
I prefer an Alpha male..someone to take charge and smash any self doubts that the heroine may have...and to cuddle with afterwards.
Hugs xx

Adonis Devereux said...

But I'm a heterosexual man, and I prefer neither alpha nor beta males. Now what should I do? ;)

Stacey said...

Adonis, you'll have to choose one just for argument's sake. LOL

Una flor al dia/A flower a day said...

Congrats on the upcoming release. My preference is an alpha male, I love reading about their strong character, their confidence and of course their 'hotness'!

heather said...

I love a man with confidence. It's all about how he presents himself and I love the fact that confidence men take charge and take action :)
chamblinh@gmail.com

Tammy said...

I love the Alpha male. That take charge kind of guy who knows what he wants. Just call me perverted *winks* jfarms74338@gmail.com

Chele Blades said...

already a follower of the blog...and would be a follower of the right alpha male...but if i were in menage i would prefer to have a beta for balance...too many bossy people would just make me evil....gotta have that alpha strength

seachele71@hotmail.com

Ms. S. Kitty Dreams said...

I prefer the Alpha male. He knows what he wants and takes it. No negotiations.

greenduckie13 said...

I prefer Alpha's. I like a take charge guy.

Pommawolf Emeraldwolfeyes said...

Congrats on your upcoming release, and cover is oh so nice...*S
I'm already a follower of you wonderful blog.

I want an alpha male who damn sure of who he is, and comfortable in his own skin, and is solid in his showing that strength at all times and then some....*S*
Thank you for this wonderful contest.


Darcy
pommawolf @hotmail.com

Siobhan Muir / Meg Palevich said...

I have a strong personality so I identify with strong alpha males. I like beta males when I can see their strength in who they are and are not completely overshadowed and pushed out by an alpha.

Congrats on the upcoming release!

MiaAshlinn said...

Hiya Stacey. I am already a follower. :) At least, I think I am. I know that you are on my blog dashboard when I log into my blog. Does that count? If not, let me know how to make sure. I cannot imagine that I not following since I come visit all the time. LOL.

In regards to your question, I think I am kind of like a "switch." LOL. I have no preference in regards to "alpha" or "beta." Its the character themselves that draw me in. Their characteristics, personalities, and needs.

In menages (which are always my preference), I like to have both if the characters are right for that role. And they MUST be right for the roles or it is a disaster in the making. I didn't realize the importance of this until the trio in my WIP.

So, basically I am wimping out on a decisive answer. Love them both, equally and always. :)

-Mia
miaashlinn@gmail.com

p.s. Pretty, pretty please draw my name. *giggles*

elaing8 said...

I like a confident,take charge kinda guy so my answer is an Alpha male.

I am a follower
elaing8(at)netscape(dot)net

*yadkny* said...

Hi Stacey!
I read Claiming Their Mate and loved it!!! Can't wait to read the next two!

I'm an Alpha male kind of girl. I like a bit of dominance and there's something really sexy about watching a man take-charge of any situation. Goes back to that not cocky or conceited confidence that exudes from Alpha. And they don't even have to try hard to be sexy cuz they just are:)

*Follower
yadkny@hotmail.com

Cecile Smutty Hussy said...

Are you kidding me... For a smutty hussy, I need all alpha on one side and a beta on the side.... Of course that is the only way to satisfy a hussy. =)
Okay, now seriously... One strong but gentle, hard but tender and serious mad wicked loving skills kinda alpha is what I want.
I am a follower.
Alliwantandmorebooks@ Gmail.com

Karyn Gerrard said...

Congrats on the release Stacey!

Alpha for sure for me, but a gorgeous beta is always welcome~

karyngerrard@gmail.com

Now a follower!

Ursula said...

I am for alpha males all the way. There is just something about a confident take charge man that gets my motor reving.

shadow_kohler said...

Awesome post! lol Its one of the best that ive read in a while. :) I like alpha males. They are so hot. The way there dominating and want to take care of ya, is just hot! :) Thanks for the giveaway!
shadowluvs2read(at)aol(dot)com

Stacey said...

Random Winner is Tammy jfarms74338@gmail.com
I'll email you now :)

Congrats!