Monday, July 16, 2012

Hodge-Podge Monday

I'm so excited! I received the cover to "Love Slave for Two: Reunions (Bk 3)" from Siren-BookStrand, and I love it! :) It's coming July 30th from Siren-BookStrand. You can go to my Siren page and click the Notify Me link at the top to get an email when it's put up for pre-order:

And... *drumroll* "Love Slave for Two: Reckoning (Bk 4)" is coming August 27th. :)

Today, however, is release day for "Good Will Ghost Hunting: Hell's Bells," book 2 in my Good Will Ghost Hunting series. :)

And I'm looking forward to being at The Romance Convention in August in Dallas. It's the first annual one, sponsored by Siren-BookStrand. AND... I'm teaching a BDSM class. :)

It's going to be a party and a half. :)

Why am I teaching a BDSM class? Well, because I'm actually in the lifestyle. :) Just when I think everyone knows that, someone else asks me why I write a lot of BDSM. When I tell them yes, I'm active in the lifestyle, and that I have both a Hubby and a Sir (we have a poly V dynamic and all three of us are switches),  it's funny the reactions I get. LOL Usually the first reaction is, "Lucky!" LOL But we're just like anyone else. Sir and I are both heavy sadists and masochists. Hubby is neither, preferring to play on the fun and fluffy end of the scale. Sir's wife doesn't enjoy playing outside of home at all, and since the four of us are good friends anyway, she's given Him permission to play as long as it doesn't interfere with their marriage.

The dynamic we have wouldn't work if we all didn't have stable, solid marriages in the first place. And everyone gets their needs met without anyone having to feel guilty for not wanting to play or not wanting to participate, or worse, participating only to make the other person happy. It's a win-win for everyone.

No, I haven't read the "50 Shades" trilogy, although I did try. Friends of mine in the lifestyle who have read it tell me they aren't happy with how BDSM is portrayed in the books. I simply tell people to enjoy them as fiction, but in no way to take them as an authoritative look at the BDSM lifestyle. It was written by a vanilla person not involved in the lifestyle. (I've seen tv interviews with her.)

That's why when I write BDSM, I try to stay within the realms of realism (if it's a contemporary story and not  sci-fi or paranormal). No, I don't reflect how all people practice BDSM, only how I have experienced it or witnessed it. That's what's so great about BDSM, or WIITWD (What It Is That We Do) is that anyone can define what they want it to be or how they want to live it. There is NO "won twue way." If anyone tells you you're doing it "wrong," they're an asshat. (Unless, of course, they're pointing out a legitimate safety issue, duh.) If you're not causing harm, if everyone's consenting, and you're having fun, then you're doing it right.

If you haven't read any of my BDSM books, I did a blog post about it on my site:

And I wrote a non-fiction BDSM tutorial for writers (and anyone who's curious) that you can find at my website at:

You can find all my Siren releases as Tymber Dalton, Lesli Richardson, Macy Largo, and Tessa Monroe on my Siren page at:

New! I have a chat list now, too!

And you can find me on the web at:



SusieJ said...

I did read the 50 Shades trilogy..and I don't know how I feel about it.
Not the best written book I've ever read but I did want to find out what happened next..a bit like the Twilight books.
The BDSM element was laughable...I don't know how much research she did but to me it seemed as though she'd read some novels and threw in random scenes when she felt like it.
I really objected to her virtually suggesting that someone can be "cured" as though BDSM was an illness.
Hugs xx
p.s. roll on 30th!!!

redjuliet said...

Will be excited to just order LSFT-Reunions! I'm sick of hearing about 50 Shades unless it's used to promote legit BDSM authors. I'm looking forward to seeing you in Dallas.