I wrote on another blog this week about how the heart is not a pie and my own personal poly lifestyle arrangement with my Hubby and my Sir.
What's that mean? That the heart isn't a pie? It's not a finite piece of real estate. There isn't this limited supply of love and affection that once you use it up, it's gone. People with more than one child (or pet) can relate to that, I'm sure.
The same applies to romantic relationships. I was pleasantly surprised at the positive response I received about opening up somewhat about our situation. There are a lot of people who are poly who are afraid to let anyone know for fear of losing their jobs or even their children. I'm fortunate enough that with Hubby retired, I couldn't care less anymore.
That's why I like to write reality, so to speak. Not just the sexiness, but the sorrow, and the "you ain't gonna believe this" moments. Even in paranormal or sci-fi, people are still people. They fart, they screw up. They sometimes accidentally unleash a dump tank on their wife...
The funny thing is, "Love Slave for Two: Reunions (Book 3)" (book 4, "Reckoning," comes out Aug. 27th) was already out and I was describing the scene where Tyler screws up in a bad, bad way, and my mom told me about a nearly identical incident during a family vacation when I was a kid where my dad accidentally had an RV's dump tank empty on him and apparently my mom, my sister, and I refused to let him back into the RV until he showered. LOL
I had no recollection of that, but apparently something in my subconscious did.
Life is a beautiful, funny thing, and it certainly isn't a one-size-fits-all package. I'm glad I can talk about my situation and bring more attention to non-traditional, non-monogamous relationships and help normalize them. So many people have to live in fear, that at least it's one small way I can do my part.
(If you want to read the latest in the "Love Slave for Two" series, you can get Tymber's book "Love Slave for Two: Reunions" from Siren-BookStrand. Her website is http://tymberdalton.com)